Hair extensions
How are your extensions going? Is it now your natural hair or are you still seeing the magic ladies who sew it in? If so assuming the sensory issues have subsided, how long did it take for them to subside? Also your skin is looking amazing, tell us all your secrets, I want all the things! Any plans to come to Adelaide? x
Family holiday etiquette
Quick rundown: My partner and I went on a trip with his dad, brother, and their partners. His family is from overseas, but he and his brother live here permanently. I have mobility issues and told everyone before the trip that I struggle with long distances. While away, they wanted to do absolutely everything together — lots of walking, long days, no breaks. Even though they knew my limitations, they’d walk ahead, stare back impatiently, and make me feel really uncomfortable. My partner and I aren’t antisocial, so we tried compromising by just skipping breakfast with them and joining later. We were also excluded from deciding the itinerary and talked over whenever we made suggestions. On the last day, my partner finally snapped and called out his dad for being inconsiderate. It turned into a big argument where his dad said we were being unreasonable for wanting space to do our own thing. So… am I the asshole for wanting some independence and understanding on a group trip?
This is my Roman Empire
Hello Em & amazing crew, I think about this all the time, I don’t know why, but years on I’m absolutely still fixated (and it’s absolutely none of my business but….). Years ago, Joel Creasy had a house warming party. I was listening to a certain radio show at the time, and knew a certain host was going. I also had just started listening to your podcast and knew that you were going as well. I believe the two of you both bought him a very expensive designer kettle. However, you were the one who had to exchange your gift, and in their photos from the party, you were not in any. I know you were there because of the drunk love you did, and you walked all the way home. This woman has so many friends in common with you, even judging you on the masked singer. Why does she not acknowledge you???, I find her behaviour bizarre, is it the “excited kookaburra “ connection?, or is it a rich white woman pretending to be an “every person “. It bugs me to this day that you were never properly acknowledged on that radio show, or in person. Any comments I made on insta on their page were ignored. Love you heaps Can’t wait for my book to arrive Big love Edith
Random Would you Rathers!!
Would you rather be able to time travel but only to awkward moments, or read minds but only when people are talking about you? Would you rather have glitter permanently in your scalp or confetti permanently in your handbag? Would you rather your phone randomly scream motivational quotes at full volume or play clown music every time you get stressed?
Two things I didn't realise were together
I'm looking for dinner sets for my grandparents to by us for Christmas.... and I cam across this... I don't know if my pasting of the picture worked... but heres the link https://www.templeandwebster.com.au/20-Piece-Glinda-Wicked-Porcelain-Dinner-Set-MAWI5683.html Brittni, Brisbane
Sin of a Sister
Am I the asshole - Triger warnings Hey Em, Michael, Ben, Zeek & Crew thankyou for everything you do and bring to the table but i have a cracker for you. ITs a nice little web that will intrigue, battle, and a whole lot of Twatwaffles.... if i can get in touch with a producer of a TV Series *cough cough* lol i believe this will be the new fk days of our lives saga Lets start at the beginning and this is so fken brief it isnt funny there are so many stories that a wkend away wouldn't even be enough time.. Lets go! 1. my husband of 7yrs (others 10yrs) left me for my sister 1.1 I was 4wks post partum side quest this isnt the first time a partner of mine has slept with a sibling - i must pick them out that well that my siblings and partners think i like to share.... FFS fast fwd 8 years - after somewhat of an amicable cohesive custody agreement with my ex 50/50 was agreed at mediation between mum n dad 2. unfortunately dad has passed away - as much as he was a cunt back in the day he was a brilliant father and we had formed a new friendship that worked for us and our child 3. Aunty - Stepmum (refers to herself as mum) is now seeking custody 3.1 i provide her and the adult half siblings 1 full day a month and an open door for dinner and the arvo routines - side note said child is undiagnosed however thrives on routine and knowing EVERYTHING... my child doesnt ask about her or siblings i often ask if they wants to call them - im always fronted with a NO im not interested after visits which is always spoilt rotten (nike and brand clothing events etc) and comes back upset about dad and worried they will take him away. so am i asking.... am i an asshole for only providing 1 day a month and unlimited calls / factime or even dinner at my house? now let me add... i have n continue to put my feelings about her to a side - my anger, the shacking the increased heart rate the rage from all them years ago and now.. i hide all of this from my child. My poor husband does cop it once little one is asleep or out of the house... why do i have to fight so hard for my child. all the mini side quests i just deleted from this is incredible haha honestly if i dont laugh ill stab someone.... but honestly if u can point me in the directly of a editor or producer cos this shit is unheard of and batshit crazy to say the least
Just Thank You!
Recently been able to catch up on my podcast - stopped listening to all podcasts for a good 12 months - thank you fixation on music..... But have been catching up on your Extra, and just listened to AMA #66, last year I was seeing a psychologist trying to get an ADHD diagnosis... didn't get it, but they gave me a 'trauma' diagnosis instead... anyways.. when I was trying for ADHD the psychologist kept asking why it was important to me. And I just couldn't put words to why, but listening to this AMA gave me the word 'contextualises' - and that's exactly the word I needed - why there are days where I just can't do the list of soo soo boring shit - housework.... I just wanted to know that there was reasons behind feeling the way I do somedays... I am going to try again to get this diagnosis, but I'm going to have to wait until I am back into fulltime work. YAY for 2nd degree (Bachelors - because 3.93 GPA cannot get you into a master's program) but 3rd piece of paper. But I'm looking at going into the education sector, because I got 'bored' and flustered in a public practice accounting - but don't get me wrong - I absolutely love my accounting (particularly the tax system... rules and regulations...) but I needed the change so that I could have 12 months of stability then the new challenges arrive, whether its tackling new year level, different subjects (mathematics, science or accounting) or getting to know a new class of students.
When you come to Canberra, will you visit the Penis Owl?
Hi Em and Michael, I have already booked tickets to see you at the Canberra's writers' festival. I was just wondering if you have any site seeing planned? The Penis Owl is always fun. I am also a massive Canberra nerd (I literally make youtube videos about Canberra) so if you want a little fun gay Canberra guide, I'm your man! Loving the work you're doing, I can't wait to see your musical!
Question about dealing with grief when you're autistic (not yet diagnosed, but peer reviewed).
I recently lost my grandfather, and basically went into survival mode to get through my role in the funeral. Basically CBT but not in a healthy way. Now that the funeral is over, I am really struggling to accept that he is not here anymore. I was really close with my grandparents growing up, and spent a lot of time with my grandfather during his last year. How do you deal with grief when you've lost someone so important to you, but struggle to feel the big feelings that come with that?
Pre diabetic at 35!
Hi Em, I have just been diagnosed as pre-diabetic. Even though I knew I had an increased risk of type 2 diabetes because I have a family history and had gestational diabetes with my second, I didn’t really think it would be something I would be facing at 35. For the past 7 years my family has come first, I’m still carrying the baby weight around (my youngest is almost 5). I have adhd and a complicated relationship with food, most likely also autistic so there is also a bunch of sensory things going on too e.g I don’t like eating leftovers, gives me the ick. I also struggle to get into exercise, my health has been on the back burner for too long and now I need to prioritise me but it’s incredibly overwhelming. Please give me any words of encouragement to get me started on this road back to me. P.S currently watching severance after listening to the pod on my way home from work the other night, I had no idea what was going on but I was so intrigued.
Tram driver championship - Melbourne drivers!
Can Em and Michael review the World Tram Driver Championship? We have two Melbourne drivers competing https://www.reddit.com/r/melbourne/comments/1mypa5o/sally_and_craig_from_melbourne_will_be/. Website - https://www.tramwm.com and video from last year https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zQ9jt9L5sk