Am I the arsehole? Or help me avoid it!
Hi Em, Am I the arsehole? My partner has surprised me with a week long holiday later in the year “for my birthday”. I don’t know where we are going or what we are doing. Just that I have to take leave. He has organised everything including care for our son. How do I tell him that I don’t want to go? I love my job and don’t want to take long service leave. It’s the worst time to take off and something I’ve never done in my whole career. Something that he basically should have known about me. I don’t want to spend a week away from my son and don’t want to waste money on holiday that I’ve had no input into. I can’t help but think he has done it for the glory and not actually for me. How do I explain this to him without being an ungrateful bitch? I basically want to scream at him, I don’t want a fucking holiday, I just want you to do your fair share!!! Do I suck it up and just go? If so, how do I not resent him in the process. I know this is such a first world problem, however it has me spiralling. Any guidance would help. Love the pod!